Here is one of the tips I received in the 1980’s about how to tell if a date was going well. Unlock the passenger side door first. Walk around the back of the car, and look in the back window. If your date leans over and unlocks your door, that means the date is going well. If not, then that is probably the last date with that person.
Did it work? I have no idea. My car didn’t have doors that locked.
Now I have a wife. (Thank God.) And I have a car with a remote.
Two months ago, the remote for my car stopped working. Damn it. I replaced the battery, and it still didn’t work. Damn it.
The next day, I walked to the car, and out of habit I pressed the button, and…. nothing. Damn it.
So the next day, I walked outside, pressed the button, and nothing. Damn it.
Button press. Damn it. Button press. Damn it. Button press. Damn it.
Damn it. Damn it. Damn it.
Guess what I did. Replace the remote? That’s pricey.
I took the remote off my key chain.
Guess what? No more damn it. I actually don’t mind it at all.
The situation is no different. I still have to use the key. The remote still doesn’t work. I just don’t carry it with me anymore.
We all have pieces of ourselves that are broken. Some of them are worth fixing. But many of them are not, and yet we continue to carry them with us, allowing them to weigh us down, doing nothing to fix them, but cursing them all along. Those are the pieces we need to drop.
Decide what those pieces are for you. Leave them behind. Once you do, you will find you do not miss them.