On September 1, 2017, I started a three-month sabbatical from the church I serve.  It was a pretty amazing time. I got to spend time with my kids, traveling with my oldest to visit colleges, with my younger son to play some hockey, and long peaceful days at the barn with my daughter. I started … Continue reading 2018

Not Me

When I was in seminary, I sat in a theology class with six other students around a table.  One day, the discussion was about oppression and prejudice. People shared some very personal painful stories about how they had been mistreated at best, abused at worst. I sat quietly. Finally, one student noticed I wasn't saying … Continue reading Not Me


This weekend is my 25th college reunion.  Due to other obligations, I will not be going. College seems like yesterday and it seems like a lifetime ago. Along those lines, I have mixed emotions about those four years. It certainly would be interesting to go back.  When speaking with a classmate recently, she said it will … Continue reading Go DEACS!


This blog has been quiet for a couple months.  Part of that has been unintentional; summer schedules interfere with the discipline of writing. Part has been intentional; I have observed through comments, feedback and private messages how people read what I write through the lens of their experience.  I realize that is unavoidable.  However, it … Continue reading FOCUS

Summer Reading

At different times people in my congregation have asked me what I'm reading, and what I recommend.  Add to that, it's the last day of school here.  Summer has begun.  If you're heading out to the beach and want something to read, I offer the following suggestions. Healing Spiritual Wounds by Carol Howard Merritt.  It's … Continue reading Summer Reading

Old School

Here is one of the tips I received in the 1980's about how to tell if a date was going well. Unlock the passenger side door first.  Walk around the back of the car, and look in the back window.  If your date leans over and unlocks your door, that means the date is going well. … Continue reading Old School